Step Five: The Power of Honesty & Vulnerability in Recovery

One of the most transformative moments in recovery is when we sit down and share the contents of our Fourth Step inventory. Step Five asks us to “admit to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.” This is an act of both honesty and vulnerability—and it’s a gateway to profound healing.

Why Admitting Our Wrongs Is Essential

For many of us, the secrets we carried kept us sick. We lived with shame, guilt, and isolation. Speaking the truth aloud—especially the parts we’re most afraid to share—breaks those chains.

Step Five gives us the opportunity to:

• Let go of hidden guilt and shame
• Gain clarity and perspective
• Recognize patterns and begin to change them
• Experience acceptance from another person
• Deepen our relationship with our Higher Power

As the Big Book reminds us on page 75:

“We pocket our pride and go to it, illuminating every twist of character, every dark cranny of the past.”

When we are truly honest and vulnerable, we invite freedom. We begin to walk in integrity—not perfection, but truth.

Practical Tip: How to Choose the Right Person for Step Five

Choosing someone to hear your Fifth Step is a personal and important decision. The right person should be:

• Trustworthy – Someone who respects your privacy and understands confidentiality.
• Supportive – A person who listens with compassion, not judgment.
• Experienced – Preferably a sponsor or someone familiar with the 12 Steps and recovery.

Many people choose to do their Fifth Step with a sponsor. Others may choose a spiritual advisor, therapist, or clergy member. What matters most is that you feel safe and supported.

Before beginning, take time to pray or meditate. Ask your Higher Power for guidance and openness. The act of telling another human being your story is sacred—it marks a turning point in your journey of healing and growth.

Final Thoughts

Honesty and vulnerability take courage. Step Five is not about being punished—it’s about being set free. When we speak the truth in the presence of someone who truly listens, we experience connection and transformation.

If you’re approaching Step Five, take your time. Choose the right person. Prepare spiritually. And trust that something powerful and healing is waiting on the other side of honesty.

You are not alone. Keep going.